Ok, so you’ve taken the paleo plunge, or even just a 30 day challenge. Great! Things are going to start to change. Your body, your emotions, your moods, and your food. Someone is going to notice! I can’t tell you how many times I have had people see me eat one meal, and ask why I skipped the dinner roll, mashed potatoes, or rice. This is a fantastic opportunity that you are going to want to take advantage of, and trust me, they are ready to listen. Some might be intrigued by this lifestyle, while others will shun its facts in a glorious trample (or stumble) of your information. But dont get nervous, here are 5 steps you can follow to explain your lifestyle to your friends:
- “Its a nutritionally dense diet.” Most people will agree that a diet rich with fruits and vegetables is ideal for superior health. By explaining how the paleo diet is rich with micronutrients, like vitamins and minerals, your friends will understand why a paleo diet is optimal. Dont be afraid to use the classic “livers are more nutritious than bread” line. Once they see how much nutrition you are actually getting from the diet, they will start to loosen up. It is hard to disagree with eating more nutrients. Once you have completed this step, you can take a stab at explaining to them antinutrients.
- “Its an anti inflammatory diet.” Another great way to get someone intrigued by the paleo diet is by explaining the anti inflammatory benefits of not eating grains or vegetable oils. In recent years, vegetable oil has had a halo surrounding its “low-fat” nature. However, the high amounts of omega 6 fatty acids found in vegetable oils, as well as grains and grain fed animals, actually increases inflammation in our systems. Systemic inflammation can lead to sickness, which we are all trying to avoid. Once your friends have hear about the insane inflammation that occurs from omega 6 fatty acids, they will begin to have their minds turned.
- “Our previous thoughts about fat consumption are skewed.” This one might be a bit tougher to explain. A lot of people have some real issues with accepting the fact that the “lipid hypothesis” was faulty. It seems to have been seared into our brains that fat is bad. One way to explain this to your friends is to tell them all about Ancel Keys and his 21 Countries study that was actually only 7 countries (click here to read more about Ancel Keys). You could also tell your judgmental friends that fat is absolutely necessary for proper digestion of vitamins and minerals (aka why they are called “fat soluble vitamins”). I find the latter of the two explanations to usually sit better in the stomachs of “non paleo’s (muggles?)” But give them both a shot if your feeling perky.
- Functional fitness. Ahh functional fitness. The term that has been oh so celebrated amongst crossfitters, and paleo people alike. Its quite the sell, and it makes sense. The idea that you can train not to suck at life seems to make everyone absolutely giddy. But how do you explain it to your friends? Well, i think its just that simple! Tell them that functional fitness trains you not to suck at life. Explain to them how functional movements like the deadlift, pushup, pullup and squat train you for everyday activities so that when your old and (not) decrepit, you will still be able to pick up your grandchildren.
- Basics. Its never a bad idea to just toss the basics out there. Giving a broad overview of the topic of paleo can sometimes really hit home with your friends. Remember to mention paleo as a lifestyle rather than just a diet. Tell them about antinutrients, omega fatty acids, and how this diet is optimal for human health. Some people will catch on right away with the basics, others will need a bit more in depth explanation. But that’s what we are here for!

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Hey guys,
I have seriously been waiting for a solid “how to explain this to your friends” write-up from all the paleo bloggers since hearing about the lifestyle a year ago. None of these ideas once crossed my mind and all of them make sense. Being the more science-guy I am, I always go straight into the details of it, which makes people think I’m some fringe crazy that is on a “fad diet.” I really like the advice you just put out.
Keep doing what you’re doing!
Ryan
Thanks Ryan! Spread the word!
In college I told everyone that I was allergic to the things I didn’t eat….. But, then I had my large intestine taken out and guess what, I cannot digest pretty much anything, so really I didn’t lie! LOL
It’s always good to be honest!
Haha! I’ve done that a few times with some *ahem* intolerable people. But usually I just say “I feel good when I eat this way” and that usually ends the conversation. My friends/family still look at me like I’m crazy, but hey…Another interesting note: when I’m introduced to new people and/or even with old acquaintances/friends they see me as a ‘health nut’ and automatically assume that I’m vegetarian/vegan. Ha! If they only knew…
haha, sometimes I tell my friends that I find vegetarians to be really unhealthy people and they look at me like I am crazy.
So basically, my mom is the judgmental one! I am trying the Paleo diet for a week, but she constantly criticizes me.
She basically repeats to me the fact that there are few complex carbs in the diet, and therefore its basically the Atkins diet. Obviously I know it’s not the same.
My question: how to explain to her that eating very few complex carbs isn’t a horrible thing?
Ralph,
A lot of the hype about complex carbohydrates has to do with the replacement of refined carbohydrates. It is basically the difference between white bread and whole grain bread. However, complex carbohydrates can also be vegetables and fruits. The reason why fruits and veggies are ideal over the commonly known complex carbs (whole grain bread, etc) is because fruits and vegetables have way more micronutrients (vitamins and minerals) in them than does whole grain bread, brown rice, etc. Not to mention anti nutrients, mentioned above, found in whole grain bread can detract from your nutrient absorption.
Hope this helps!
Great post! It’s been hard trying to explain this to friends, and most think I’m on some fad diet for instant weight loss – so wrong! I think ‘nutritionally dense diet’ will be my new phrase. After being Paleo for several months, I find that eating bread/rice upsets my stomach anyway, so it’s not a lie anymore when I say I can’t digest starchy carbs. Keep up the good work! 🙂
Thanks Elana! Sounds like you are well on your way to being another primal success story! “nutritionally dense” is one of my favorites too.